When you get angry, you think someone has made you angry. No, really, you were ready, you were overflowing inside. You don't know because you are not aware. You are overflowing with a certain amount of energy which needs to be released. Someone abuses you, insults you, and you get angry, you think, " This man is anger in me" . No this man is simply giving you a situation to release the overflowing energy in you.